Being Assertive means being confident about oneself, what one thinks, what one says, and what one believes. You might have met many people in your life who have less self-confidence and do not express their needs to others because they are afraid to feel rejected. Such a set of people lack self-esteem and think that they don’t deserve anything good in life. The ability of assertiveness is sometimes inborn while many times, people are taught to be confident and trained to express themselves, their thoughts, and their ideas without feeling any sort of fear.
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Assertiveness is the key to successful people because they do not think a lot before sharing their ideas and thoughts with others. If assertive people want something, they tell that as it is, either in a written way or in a verbal manner. Assertiveness many times are considered to be a trait of extroverts or ignorant people. However, that is not the case. Assertiveness can be learned even by introverted people so that they can reduce the pain of living in darkness and build a beautiful life for themselves and that of others.
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How can assertiveness be learned? The process starts first by knowing yourself. If you don’t know yourself then telling others what you want exactly won’t come easily. For example, if a class 5 student doesn’t know to tell his teacher what he doesn’t understand in the subject then his queries and doubts would remain unresolved. Thus, he would end up making more errors in the subject.
However, another student in the same class who is confident to speak to tell his teacher that he is lacking something in the subject would immediately get his problems solved. This attitude would help him to gain more marks in the exams and thus, he would be able to study well for further studies as well.
Assertiveness also means to speak or write in an honest and transparent manner. Assertiveness shouldn’t mean that one has to cross any boundary or disrespect others just because they want their problems to be solved. Rowdyism or dominance doesn’t mean assertiveness. You can practice assertiveness in your personal as well as professional life. For example, if your child is hiding something from you, asking your child in a calm and upfront way about what is bothering him or her will help you a lot.
Self-assurance is also known as assertiveness. Being not guilty for sharing their opinions freely and frankly comes in the behavior of assertive people. For example, I have seen a woman who has always been upfront about the way she is and never guilty about asking her superiors what they are up to when the company is going through losses. Her self-assurance that no matter what, she won’t be removed from the job is one of the traits of her assertiveness.
Assertive people also listen to others’ problems and ideas quite interestingly. They do not cut others’ points of view just because they want to be right. Instead, they consider each opportunity as a learning one so that they can upgrade themselves and grow in their lives.
