Trust is a beautiful word that seems to exist only in books and dictionaries in recent times. I met a friend recently who complained to me about her husband for almost two hours wherein she could share only what is not working between the couple. As my friend was bitching about her husband, I looked at her eyes which were frustrated and her poor health contributed her to seeing things as she perceived them.
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I consoled my friend and told her that she needs to trust the journey of her marital life and take things easy. However, she didn’t relent and kept on repeating the same thing again and again. I gave her the number of a marriage counselor friend who said she will ensure that my friend will be fine over a period of time. Things are not easy in life in the post-pandemic world. Considering how much negativity we are getting exposed to on a regular basis, it is obvious that young minds are unable to focus on their marital life in a blissful manner.
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If your partner has been facing trust issues with you, here are some ways in which you can convince him or her.
1) Walk your talk:
If you have been someone in your relationship who doesn’t stick to your promises or commitments all these years, then it is the right time to change your behavior. Your partner may be really pissed off because you don’t walk your talk. You set goals with your partner that you can achieve individually and he or she can also understand them. Do not give fake promises because that affects their self-esteem and confidence in the relationship.
2) Share things as they are without sugar-coating:
The majority of the time, we assume that our partner will not like this or that and develop the habit of hiding stuff from them. And when our partner gets to know and we reveal the facts, we try to add some sugar-coating to the same so that our partner doesn’t react quite negatively. Instead of adding more stress to your life by involving yourself in such this-and-that work, keep things simple. You say things as they are and let your partner understand the facts and come to reality in her own way.
3) Keep things transparent:
Be it your salary or your personal life matters or things happening in your friends or parents’ lives, just tell all the important things that your partner needs to know as it is. If you have got a salary cut, share it. If your friend is trying to impress you and get in your good books for a promotion or a flirty thing, share it. Your partner needs to be aware of each and everything that goes in and around your life because that will help him or her to gain the trust as your life partner.
Last but not the least, don’t cheat your partner for any or everything. If your partner is someone who keeps expecting a lot of things from you and you are not someone who can fulfill all her or his expectations, tell the same on their face. The more you are real, the more your relationship will attract genuine happiness in life.
