After spending time with your lover, do you feel exhausted or sad, as if something has been missing for a while? That something is you, since while relationships develop and acceptance is vital, there should be no blinded chase of love. As a result, it’s critical to spot the red flags or shades of wrong right away so that love doesn’t turn to ash and legal bills.
Someone who makes you feel abandoned, misunderstood, devalued, or attacked is a toxic spouse. On the most basic level, someone who makes you feel worse over time rather than better is toxic. If your relationship has become toxic, you must sit down with your spouse and have a serious discussion about your relationship’s boundaries, which they are not allowed to breach and have been crossing, as well as the essential characteristics that have been missing.
Warn your partner about the deteriorating relationship. If they keep doing what they’re doing, they should be warned, and you should tell them that it’s causing the relationship to fail. Allow them to realise that their toxicity may jeopardise the relationship’s success.
Discuss with your partner to collaborate on the things to make your relationship workful. Accepting the presence of a toxic spouse in your life softens you and allows compassion and wisdom to enter. Persuade your partner to collaborate on this. Instead of obsessing on the past, consider how you might make the future work for you.
Avoid the blame game by focusing on understanding and practising good communication instead of accusing. Individually, you can heal by working on yourself to improve your resilience.