I met a friend recently who lost his wife due to the coronavirus pandemic. My friend is a 67 years old retired banker who has two daughters left from his 35 years of marriage with his late wife. My meeting made my friend feel lighter as he had too many emotions hidden inside him that he just wanted to share out with someone who will listen and not judge him for being himself.
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In my entire two hours-long conversations, I could find only guilt and regret flooded in his life’s stories. His perspective was from a victim mindset wherein he felt cheated and let down by each and every one of his family members from his childhood to old age. He still holds grudges against his daughters who are unable to reach out to him due to their personal life responsibilities of marriage and work pressure amid the pandemic situation.
Being emotional comes naturally to people who are born that way. But thinking emotionally all the time with no practical approach can make you become like this old friend of mine who has lived a life full of pain and suffering. Pain and challenges in life are inevitable but sufferings are optional. A man or a woman can be emotional and at the same time rational to deal with life’s challenges tactfully and not get bogged down and give up on life.
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Yes, problems are there but it is a part of everyone’s life. Honestly, if you are born as a human being, you are bound to face some difficulties that can either make you or break you in life. Now what you do with those challenges decides your future life. If you sit crying all the time that this person did this to you or that to you, then it is not happening. You will have a life but there will be no purpose if you are too much dependent on others for your emotional and life’s needs. At times, you need to get up and work towards your life’s goals, whether big or small, and just keep moving forward in life.
