Trauma That Lasts Forever
“Not every trauma heals with time.”
In a world where we usually get the advice that “trauma heals with time,” the fact is, it doesn’t. Some trauma can heal, but some can live with us forever. And when we try to force it to heal, it can become worse and worse.
When you talk about it, either it gets ignored or people say, “Leave it, it happens.” Then it gets suppressed, and you hold onto those emotions.
My whole point is this: stop telling people that trauma heals with time. It does not. I am repeating this: it does not.
The catch here is that trauma doesn’t heal just with time, nor does it heal solely by visiting a psychiatrist. It heals by facing it.
I agree that some trauma lives with us, but are you facing yours? Are you talking about it? If not, it will stay with you.
Face it, talk about it, and stop suppressing it. Even if it stays with you forever, at least you will feel the relief of knowing you talked about it and faced it directly.
That’s the only way to true healing.
Here is an uncomfortable reality: everyone carries trauma they avoid talking about because it makes them uncomfortable.
Are you going to live like this for the rest of your life? Of course not. So talk about it, because time won’t heal it for you.
If you don’t have people you can talk to, grab a diary and write it down. You will feel relaxed and more confident.
If you suppress it, you won’t live life fully. Worse, you might pass it on to another generation, leading to even more traumatic experiences.
Peace is important, you cannot deny that.
For your peace of mind, don’t wait for time to heal your wounds. Take action and try to free yourself. It will be hard, and for some, it may feel nearly impossible. But you will have the relief of knowing that you tried.
I will say it again: Time won’t heal your trauma; only you can.
