Emotional manipulation can come in the form of emotional blackmailing, giving a cold shoulder to the partner, distancing from the partner at an emotional level, criticizing the partner so that they agree to their needs, and many other ways. If your partner is a master at emotional manipulation, then it is high time to start your healing process and also work towards the betterment of your mental health.
Tips for couples going through emotional separation
1) When your partner traps you with his or her words:
If your partner wants to get something done from you like you giving finances for a tour, or you taking a break from your workplace, or you acting in a special way on the bed just to fulfill their wants, then they will trap you by sweet talking with you just till the work gets done. Once their work is over and their need is fulfilled, they will give you the cold shoulder and try to manipulate you by believing that they never wanted anything from you but it is all that you wanted to do things for them. Remember this is a kind of emotional attack that they have mastered to practice on you just to get things done from you and give nothing in return. But you should be smart enough to understand that it is not always their way and you have all the right to do what you want in life your way as well.
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2) When your partner breaks all the boundaries in a relationship:
If your partner doesn’t know to give you respect in exchange for the love and affection that you have been giving so far, then you are in a terrible marriage. If your partner calls you 40 times just so that he can get things done for you, then the relationship is just a toxic one. If despite you telling them that you have an important meeting at the office and he distracting you to get household chores done, then there are chances that your partner is spoiling the relationship with his emotional manipulation and all his frustrating emotions. You have to break free from this relationship by either creating strict boundaries that beyond this point, you will not tolerate the emotional abuse or you need to set clear boundaries with your partner for your emotional well-being.
3) When your partner threatens you to break the marriage:
If your partner knows to get things done from you by only threatening you to quit the marriage or relationship, you are really in a bad marriage. Because of your partner’s emotional immaturity and cunning tactics, you suffer the worst times in your marriage. Thus, you need to confront your partner that you will no more tolerate the constant arguments, nagging and interference from your partner, or else it would be you who would like to separate from the marriage for the betterment of your mental health.
If things don’t get better in your marriage despite you trying to heal from the emotional pain caused by your partner, then you can simply stay away from your partner for a while. In the meantime, you can also consult a marriage therapist for mending things in your relationship.
