Sex makes you feel pleasant and happy from within and outside. Sex is not just bodily pleasure but it is also an emotional connection that we establish with our partner. Then why does sex or talking about having sex become a subject of taboo? If you are shy to talk about sex with your partner, then understand that your partner won’t feel bad if you open up a little at least if not fully.
Things you can do after you had sex
Sex life is not just about pleasing each other’s bodily sensations but also about sharing your likes and dislikes with each other. Wrong communication about sexual health and having sexual intercourse can actually end up creating a lot of misunderstandings between the couple. So, try to get rid of the notions that talking about sex or your inner urges or fantasies about sex is a bad idea.
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You need not complain or crib about your partner’s sexual performance with others or even with your partner but just share your comfort levels and also talk in a way that doesn’t put them in a bad light. Your talks should be non-threatening and even make them feel joyful about their lives as your partner.
Now is the right time
If you take your calendar and fix a date that you will share your sexual desires from this month or year of your relationship, then you are completely wrong. The more you wait, the more it becomes difficult to express and even adjust for several couples emotionally as well as physically. You need to keep easy conversations that highlight important points on contraception, consent, etc with the whole trust. You can start from what you really love about having sex with your partner and then eventually also share what puts you off not from your partner but in general as an experience.
Share your fantasies
It is alright! There is no teacher or parent out there to scold you for sharing how you want to have your sexual experience to be. This is really an intimate moment between you and your partner and there is no one out there to put a comma or full stop to your fantasies. You can take it slowly but make sure you open up about your sexual fantasies once you both have established that level of trust. Like some partners love licking each other’s bodies with vanilla or chocolate ice cream before they end up on the bed. After all, everyone has their own taste and way of looking at sex and making love.
Forget your past if there are hurts involved
Everyone has a past and the communication or conversations or memories related to the past if they are hurtful can make people go crazy. So, avoid your past and focus on your NOW. You need to create new memories wherein you both just start with a good chat about what type of sex you want to have and how it satisfies you on the bed. Relaunch yourselves as a brand new couple if the need is so.
