Empathy is sensing other people’s emotions, pain, happiness, negativity, and positivity without them expressing the same in words or emotions. It is like you are such an empath that you can cry when you see a child feeling hungry or an aged woman walking barefoot on the streets. Your empathy puts you in the guilt of why there is so much pain and injustice in the world. Your empathy makes you also give your best helping hand so that the person whom you think is in a problem overcomes it without you having any expectations from them.
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If you are an empath, there is no problem if you know how to take care of yourself also well. Here are some amazing tips to become an empowered empath:
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1) Help yourself and others as well:
When you think that your mother-in-law is so aged and has to do household chores, you wake up early and do all the work for her so that she can rest well throughout the day. This example is good for an ideal bahu. But in the case that while you are helping her to live a good life, you are sacrificing your sleep and good energy levels just for her, then lady boss, you need to show empathy towards yourself as well. You can take an extended break at home or in the office to complete your work so that you also get the required relaxation and positive energy to do the work for others. This will help your body and mind to re-energize themselves and give your best on all fronts in life.
2) Think about your needs as well:
So, if showing empathy to your college friend, you are sitting in the college library and completing her assignments just so that she can get better grades in exams, you need to know what you will do for your used-up time as well. If you have used your time to complete her assignments then what about your assignments? Who will complete them and when? So, you need to first focus on your needs and then think about empathizing with others for their poor performance in exams.
3) Use your sensitivity for your own betterment:
You may have felt really bad seeing an old woman sitting on the streets and begging for food, clothing, and shelter in the form of money. That doesn’t mean you give away your whole salary so that her needs are fulfilled. It only means you can contribute a share of the income that got credited to your bank account. Say 1% of the income so that she can at least buy foods to eat for a month. Remember your sensitivity should be first towards yourself and then only for others. Empathy should be towards you first and then for others, because if you are not good then how will you be able to help others lead a good life? Think about it.
Last but not the least, meditation has proven to be a technique that calms empaths in the right manner. You may get disturbed reading news about the injustice and calamities happening in the world but remember no one can stop what is already destined by Nature. So, focus your energy on doing good for yourself and others one each day, month, and year to become an empowered empath.
