No matter how much you love someone or how much someone loves you but remember that RESPECT is always a priority in any relationship be it from an arranged marriage or love marriage or arranged cum love marriage. People who are deeply in love do not set boundaries with their partners and allow all abusive things making the relationship more unmanageable in the long run.
Any sort of physical or emotional or mental problem that is affecting your relationship is a sign that your individual growth is being hampered unnecessarily. You need to know what things you will 100% be sure to not allow you in your relationship if you seriously want to take it as a relationship forever and not end up in an abusive relationship leading to a divorce.
If your partner tries to control your actions and behaviors and manipulates your emotions just so that they can feel good or happy about their like and wants, then it is not acceptable and you have to put a stop to the same by making them realize that you are a separate identity and are in a relationship to grow together and not act as a substitute.
If your partner tries to convince you that what you think or feel about his actions and behaviors is crazy or illogical then you need to voice out your opinions frankly and not keep mum. You have all the right to feel uncomfortable with his wrong or unethical feelings and actions and express the same without feeling guilty.
Emotional and physical abuse is a strict NO if you really want to ensure that your marriage sustains all the downfalls and emerges to be a true winner in the long term. If you are looking for marital life of 30 to 40 years then make sure that taking a break from your partner for 3 or 4 months just to ensure that his thoughts, actions, and words don’t harm you physically and mentally.
