What to do when your in-laws mistreat you

If you are someone who has been at the receiving end of your in-laws, then here are some ways to overcome the emotional abuse.
 
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Toxic in-laws are a part of the Indian culture. Like, in India, when you get married to your partner, you don't just accept your partner in life but also his or her parents. That's why there are so many divorce cases going on in the Indian legal system that has cases from both the men's and women's ends and a role played by their in-laws in breaking the marriage. If you are someone who has been at the receiving end of your in-laws, then here are some ways to overcome the emotional abuse.

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1) Try to understand why they say nasty things to you:

If your in-laws are quite orthodox and narrow-minded, then your influence on them to change their ways won't be an easy one. You will have to work really hard to make sure that they understand your viewpoints and also get what they want from you. Say for example, if your in-laws always complain that you earn quite less compared to their other relatives, then show signs of changing a job or looking for better opportunities. Don't neglect their opinions in your life because they are going to be a part of your family till they are alive and even after that in the form of their relatives and your partner's thinking process.

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2) Carry on with your regular life without feeling demotivated:

In-laws won't understand your career aspirations or dreams in life. They are what they are because of their hurtful and tiring past. You need not set unrealistic expectations from them and expect that they will talk good things about you to you or with others. Learn to be smart and be okay if they are always criticizing or complaining about you to your partner. You need the support of your partner and that will come only if you express what you aspire to be in life. Your partner may not be willing to adjust or say a complete yes, but you don't have to feel demotivated because of your personal home situation. Just keep going in your life with your true goals in life and a broader perspective.

3) If there is physical domestic abuse, then call for help:

Help can be your immediate family members or parents or relatives who can speak to your toxic in-laws and make them understand that domestic abuse on a physical level is not good for both the families and children as well. Don't be afraid to speak your thoughts but just share your feelings as they come. You can consult expert help if, despite the attempts by your family members, your in-laws don't budge and continue to mistreat you all the time. Put a full stop if things are really going out of your control. Like, not allowing you to go out or making you do all the household chores are all ways in which in-laws try to hamper the progress of a woman, so make sure you notice these signs and make a firm decision in your life for the benefit of all the parties concerned.