If your partner compares you with her EX
Ex-boyfriends are not tolerable if their names get popped up in your new relationship. If you love a woman, it is likely that you give all your heart and the best foot in the relationship. But when you don't get the same treatment of love and affection and instead, you get comparisons of your qualities with their ex-boyfriend(s), then that's when the major problem starts. If your woman doesn't know where and when to stop comparing you with her ex-boyfriend, then here are some subtle ways to help you pull the relationship ahead without many arguments.
1) Express your feelings when she takes the name of her ex-boyfriend:
In a romantic relationship, the couple understands each other well only when there are more expressions of real emotions. If your girlfriend or partner doesn't know to set boundaries for her past and current romantic life, then you need to express your displeasure in the best way possible. Don't get agitated or irritated and throw tantrums that your girlfriend or partner only remembers about you. But tell her subtly that you will feel upset whenever she starts talking about how her ex-boyfriend used to gift her or give her treats etc.
2) Set realistic expectations from your partner:
Probably your girlfriend or partner is used to or habituated by the affection of her ex-boyfriend and has not yet overcome the loss of the breakup. You can tell her to forget the past stories in a mindful way so that you both can create new memories of togetherness. Don't expect a lot from your partner like getting rid of remembering her ex-boyfriend all in a day or month's time. Whenever she recollects or makes a comparison between you and her ex-boyfriend, just leave or change the topic then and there. This will make her realize that she need not continue the conversation further and hurt you anymore.
3) Take it easy and don't fret:
Many times women remember their ex-boyfriend out of love and affection of being loved for the first time. After all, love is a beautiful feeling and there are high chances that her bond with her ex-boyfriend was stronger than her current relationship with you. So, instead of worrying or feeling insecure when your partner keeps comparing you with her past boyfriend experiences, just take it easy. Keep calm and develop more patience and tolerance levels rather than criticizing or hitting her verbally for spoiling your mood. At times, leaving certain things and forgetting the errors can help you focus more on the beautiful relationship that you share with your girlfriend.
4) Start small and take baby steps:
If your girlfriend compares your dressing style with that of her ex-boyfriend, try dressing differently so that she doesn't remember her past. If she compares you for your soft nature with her ex, then try showing a different side of yours to her. If she compares you with her ex for the gifts that you send her or the messages that you write to her, try gifting her in a different way than your usual. When you start doing things differently, eventually she will overcome the comparison mode and try knowing the real you for who you are.