Don't waste your precious time by comparing with others

When I learned more, my friend told me because the other girl gets more marks than her, her parents don't treat her well and keep taunting her to come first in the class.
 
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Comparisons with others' lives kill many dreams. Just imagine from the time you are born till you get married or even get old, how your life will turn out to be if you keep looking at what others are doing and keep making changes in your life accordingly. I remember my school friend telling me that she hates a girl in the class because she scores more marks than my friend. When I learned more, my friend told me because the other girl gets more marks than her, her parents don't treat her well and keep taunting her to come first in the class.

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This example of comparison is not just limited to academics in schools and colleges. Even if you notice comparison happens while taking up jobs or even getting married to a bride or groom as well. For example, I was shocked when I learned that a man who is amazing in his organic farming skills gets forced to take up an MNC job because his parents and immediate family members wanted him to earn more and clear their debts. This man became so depressed in his life over a period of time that he lost his interest in organic farming and even doing any hobby that made him happy. No wonder he led a life full of resentment because his job was being compared with his siblings who were settled in the US and UK.

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The comparison also comes when a couple starts a family. For example, the mother-in-law always compares her daughter-in-law with the other daughters-in-law in their family of how they gave birth to children immediately after their marriage. Comparing comments are also made on women in terms of their home management skills with that of other women in the family or neighbors as well. These kinds of comparisons kill the happiness and peace in the minds of people, thus adding low self-worth to them.

Comparisons are not just good if a person is doing it throughout their life's journey. Comparisons are good only if they inspire others to give their best, but if it is coming in the way of someone's happiness, then the person should just stop the act of comparing. Comparisons are hurtful if done over a period of time on the same person by naysayers who only know to instill fear and worries among people. 

Comparisons are a sheer waste of time as it not only kills the uniqueness of people but also make them follow the herd mentality. For example, you might have seen a family full of people doing MBAs and settling in foreign nations for a living. Or you might have seen a family full of uneducated people or a family full of people who decide to not get married. Thus, comparisons can only create more harm than any good if they are being used time and again on weak-minded and introverted people.

Whatever time you have on this planet, use it wisely by doing things that you like to do the most. Yes, people will compare you with your past and even others, but don't let that deter your progress in life.