What is Verbal Abuse?
You might have heard the indirect emotional attacks in the form of taunts from family members, you might have seen how to push someone to achieve a goal people use comparisons, you might have even seen how constant criticisms to get better results are used. If the taunts, criticisms, comparisons are at a moderate level and used only once in a while to get the best out of you, then it is no harm. However, if someone in your life uses all three things to get the worst out of you, then you are subject to verbal abuse.
For example, if your boss constantly nags you to work overtime and finish off a project that he has put on you without even discussing with you if you can deliver it or not, then you are encouraging the act of getting controlled by your boss for no good reason. If he texts or calls you and only expresses his frustrations in the form of abusive slang, words, and you are only tolerating them so that you have to save your job, then you are encouraging him to keep abusing you verbally.
For example, if your wife keeps torturing you emotionally by comparing you with her friend’s husband and wants you to give her all the riches without her putting any effort to support you in getting them then you are tolerating a marriage that is full of verbal abuse. If you are being patient thinking that she will change one day and all your arguments will reduce, then sorry boss, you live in an illusion.
In today’s times, verbal abuse has become quite common in many households and even offices as the wants and needs of people are changing and increasing. If you want to come out of verbal abuse, you need to be really strong in communicating how much you can bear and how much you cannot. Even if you are manipulated to believe that you are liable to fulfill the duties, yet you can walk away for the sake of your self-respect.