Boyfriends can be insecure and super possessive at times. But it doesn’t mean you handle them lightly and let them take over control of your life. Gone are the days when women could just leave their life’s important decisions to be made by husbands or their life partners during dating and relationship and even after marriage. We cannot live anymore by the ideology that women are born only to help and support men.
Over a period of time, women have evolved into emotional and financially independent human beings. No matter helping and supporting your husband or boyfriend is a good idea but that is only if you are comfortable with it and are not forcing yourself into it because society wants it that way or you would feel accepted by your in-laws and family members only if you listen to your life partner and do as they say.
It is time to now help your boyfriend to deal with his craziness and crankiness of controlling you just because he feels insecure that you will leave the relationship and find someone else better than him. Now how you will do it? By being transparent with him in all the important matters that happen in your personal and professional life and also encouraging him to be honest and loyal. A relationship succeeds only if both partners are willing to put the effort to make it work. It doesn’t work overnight but as an eventual process.
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So, if you are going to meet your college friend and he doesn’t allow you just because he doesn’t have trust in you, then ask him to cross-check his thoughts and tell him bluntly that you will do what you want or your heart says and you are not in a relationship with him to live as per his wishes. He may throw tantrums and even threaten you that he will quit the relationship but that doesn’t matter much if you are firm and strong on your priorities. If he really loves you and respects your individuality, he will surely come back and try to work on his insecure feelings and accept you as you are.
