When we close our eyes and sit for meditation, there are certain hurtful instances of getting insulted or humiliated by others that come in front of us in our minds. We consider the person who hurt us as the villain or vamp of our life who destroyed the many years of our lives. If we missed something like an opportunity or a good experience due to that person then we are more resentful against that person who caused the unfavorable situation to us.
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All this is fine but what matters in the present moment is you are still imagining and relating to your past hurt and people who hurt you in the present times and making decisions for your future accordingly. Being safe and cautious is good but doing anything extra or over is not really good for your mental health.
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Things happened in the past because they were destined to be. Things that are happening now are because you are allowing them to happen and things that will happen in the future are a result of your present actions. If you have committed a sin and are unable to forget the incident, then you are already in hell. Instead of thinking of ways to redo the sin, you are pushing yourself to burn in the fire of mistakes and sins.
Instead of being a victim of the incident, take charge of your life and find out ways you can rectify your mistakes. If someone else has done a mistake to you, then ensure how you can forgive them at least in your mind if not in person. Forgiveness is a divine act that humans only have to do if they want to lead a peaceful life on this planet itself. Forgive yourself first for allowing wrong things to happen to you and then the person who wronged you and see how your life changes for the good.
